A friend of mine here in Portland told me this today.“If you look at the wisest people, you will find that
most of them live alone.
It’s not because they are playing the field, chasing skirts, or anything like that. That would be equally painful. . . . It’s because they look outside at all this we see (waves arms around) and they realize that’s not it.
Sure it’s all attractive, the beautiful woman, cars, possessions, money . . . but they have realized that all of it is temporary. And all of it brings suffering.
They have learned through experience that they have to look within, that the happiness is inside, not outside, reached through
self inquiry."

He continued. . .
"You know, you really can’t tell anything from the cover, from a persons looks, from the wrapping outside. We all claim to know that, but I am always still learning it.
Take her for example. . .(
referring to a very pretty young woman we both just saw). . she is beautiful no doubt. Thin, nice breasts, pretty eyes, sexy haircut, cool clothes, all that stuff. . .but inside, inside she’s terrible. . . .
.”She’s angry?” I asked. . . . yes, she’s just awful. See you just can’t tell from the outside. . . .”
she’s angry then” I repeated. . . .part of it’s hormonal, sure.
But no, she’s just viscous inside. See you just can’t ever tell."

He continued. . .
"See there are primarily two types of people in this world. Think of them as giant walking needles.
One type comes at you, pushes in the needle, and
sucks all the life and energy from you that it can.
The second type comes at you, inserts the needle, and
injects this poison drug inside you. . . . .
walking needles".

He continued. . .
"I was out on New Years eve, and I decided to take a walk down the waterfront. And it was a beautiful evening, and as long as I was down there on the waterfront it was really nice.
But, just one block away, one block up, by the Dixie Lounge and Chinatown. . .just one block up, it was hell. . . . . “
drunks everywhere” I said. . . .Yes, woman drunk, all pushed up, sucked in, decked out. . . men drunk, blind, stupid,
all of them looking so incredibly hungry. It is a hell. . . .hell for sure.
Those are those needles I am talking about."

He continued. . .
"But there is another type of person.
They are very rare, extremely rare. It’s someone who brings you pure
joy. It’s very rare, and it’s such a blessing when you find them.
When you see the man with a woman like that, so joyful, you know he’s found that.
. . . . .Somehow, she just knows how to nourish the joy in you. . . . . . .It’s amazing to see the change.”
“
Don’t forget that. . . . .remember that”,
he said as I left.